This week’s question is a good one. Let’s have a look:
Why not just end it and be with a person you don't have to play games with?
For guys, it's 'simple' in that you all make a decision and go yep, I'd like to see her, marry her, sleep with her etc.. and you all do what you do. But then men are not that communicative or expressive and that really causes women to do dumb things.
Women, because we do feel insecure because we are 'trying to read' the opposite sex and figure out what is going on with them, analyze, investigate, and really gab to our girlfriends to 'see what they think' about a guy's behavior.
You are correct - the best answer is to JUST ASK - but we all know, that NORMALLY a man would rather cut off his arm than to see a girl/woman cry, so they avoid, ditch, don't return calls and the like and don't explain themselves to their partners either.
This is how women cope (as low as it goes) but men not communicating because they are afraid to say 'It's over' (And even when they do, sometimes we don't accept that as truth - we analyze it more) doesn't help the situation.
Basically in my view - it comes down to 'fear of rejection' FROM BOTH SIDES.. The women are trying to interpet and the men are 'avoiding' and at the end of it all - isn't that the common ground?
The lesson is - BUCK UP - When a Man says he wants out - we women need to HEAR HIM - and when a Woman doesn't trust her intuition about something that's going on, SAY SOMETHING and if you still don't trust his answer, because he's being avoidant or sugar coating…..don't reduce yourself to these tactics….NO MAN IS WORTH THAT - and if you 'find proof' he's cheating or whatever, you are just hurting yourself more - so in that case…….WALK AWAY before you stoop there.
My 2 copper.
Women have to because guys are are sneaky as hell.
just insecurity
most of the time US PEOPLE (Women) don't get the truth we get a load of bull $hit.
'cos women r more insecure abt their relationship than men.
If a guy does it then he's spineless, and if a woman does it it's because she's an untrusting insecure witch. Basically people do it because they suck.
well i use to just come out and ask but i knew he was lying so i had to play detective and i was right to do so,as he was lying.it would have been so much better if he had told the truth.
All you niggas are doggs that's why!
they are all b itches
I think that the accountability lies with the woman who is playing detective! She is either, controlling, insecure, or immature. All of it boils down to the fact that she is depressed about a lack of self-esteem and/or self-worth. Relationships are not games.
I would say maybe they have been hurt, cheated on, lied to. That is my opinion though. I have played detective before but not a serious one. Just to find out if he was a liar and a cheat. My suspisions were true too…
That because some of them are so insecure.
Most of the time, women are insecure. Or simply need the drama…And doya really think a man would admit their infidelity? Apparantly you've not be versed on the cardinal male rule……….NEVER ADMIT TO ANYTHING…..
Aloott of so call MEN want to have there cake and eat it to so us as women we have something for them when they really want to say a lie we know what they are going to say before they even say it so if you do feel like your man is doing something you have alll the right to play detective……
If the person they questioned were honest, they wouldn't be on here asking questions, would they now?
I tried that once before, the whole being honest thing and it did not help. I never got the whole truth till I caught him in something. I could not get a straight answer. I did have to look through his cell and I promised myself I would not do that anymore because I hated the way it made me feel.
women like to catch guys lying, and they will test or trick you to see how many lies you can put on top of each other, its best to tell the truth, (besides when she asks you if shes gained weight and stuff like that), i guess just say if you don't trust me then what is the point of us being together. Every one knows that women can lie better than men any way.
People confuse what love is.
In this society, love is based on romance. Romance is an emotion that can easily disapear or change. This is common knowledge.
This is setting yourself up for failure. Unconciously, everyone feels insecure, but instead of facing these insecurities (for fear of losing themself or the other person) they chose to play detective as a way to be inside their partners head.
This is the core of the problem. Love should be based on a companionship that involves honesty and communication. Any other type of "love" is temporary and flawed.
Their normallyinsecure and dont know how to trust someone most have been hurt or never had anyone in their life they could trust. Some just doesnt know how to ask or dont think they would get the truth. Honestly they need to start trusting or just get out of the relationship. What kind of a relationship is it without trust anyways
Who knows? Human Nature maybe? It is in our nature to be destructive sometimes, whether it's on purpose or not. I have searched through my boyfriend's wallet when I felt he wasn't telling me the truth. I felt like an a s s when there wasn't anything there. Of course I apologized. Maybe it's our own insecurities of ourselves that makes us act the way we do. We blame the other for our insecurities or bad thoughts like they're the ones doing it ya know? Maybe out of guilt because of these thoughts?
Because some women feel like they always have to keep their eye open for whatever comes their way. I mean I've seen some pretty mean DOGS out there. And after a woman's heart is played with… she'll make sure that it wont happen again.
Well, it must be because some people just don't dare to ask to their partners, because maybe they're affraid to find out the truth, so, they prefer to do it this way, or maybe because they're not used to face things and people, and just like to pretend that everything is ok, when they just know the truth but don't like to admit it.
No… Men are no dogs for me… I respect dogs!!! lol
WOmen just do it for fun on the real and sometimes that they do it because niggas do play around
i am a woman myself and i don't do that stupid shit i hate it when girls do that and i know all men are not dogs i got the man of my dreams and girls just need to get a life or trust their partner bcuz that's a little of what love is about and they are stupid when they do that and then the guy breaks up with them and they cry b cuz they supposedly lost someone they love well its their fault and they do it to ruin their relationships i guess bcuz that's what happens when the guy finds out what they r doin i would know cuz my friend always did that she even payed people to watch him and take pictures and video camera what he was doin and then he broke up with her it was kinda funny!!
of course ur gonna get most of ur answers from girls its because they look for a reason to give us shit im not sayin all girls do but most do
sometimes women are convinced of their insecurities and all it takes is catching their partner to prove they're right.Crazy as it seems. Plus i believe this is the devils playground. Once we feel inadequate in any facet of ourselves we're sure everyone else feels the same way about us too.If i think I'm too fat, you must think I'm too fat too ugly not a good driver whatever. INSECURITIES
Not all women are like that sweetheart only insecure ones- I am 42 years old and have been in several relationships and i have never ever looked through his belongings to me that is personal a mans wallet is like my purse is to me and you better n0ot put your hands on my purse! NO you just need to find a woman who is secure.. start by checking out someone you are friends wth already -they tend to make excellant girlfriends!!!good luck!
People don't know their true selves and are constantly giong to hit their heads because of this. How many people actually listened to their mothers about waiting to have sex. Women are trying to protect what innocence they have left before they f*ck you up pimp. Why do you think cowards sh**t people, because they can't fight and don't want the homies to see them get that *ss beat.
your right it's not just women it's men too!!!!!!! if you've never been insecure then you'll never understand it, but if you can try to open your mind to the possibility that whatever their looking for is really there ,they're just looking in the wrong spot it might surprise you to find, that the answers they seek is reassurance that they're suspicions are just suspicions.yeah, it sounds crazy, but nobody wants to find what they think might be, just the opposite.
Because men lie
Women become insecure during a relationship because of the actions of there sig other, He has brought phone numbers home, stop talking to her or just making her feel last and unattractive. woman fight back for what belongs to them and become damn determined to find out why he is acting and doing things. They are both wrong , it should stop and they should be open in what they are doing and why. If it doesn't work out from there then they should not be together.
Have you ever heard of women's intuition? It's when we get a feeling in our gut that something isn't right in a relationship. If the guy is hiding something, he isn't going to answer our questions honestly. So, we look for clues to the male mystery. I chose to trust a boyfriend I was living with in college, until I thought he was cheating. I did pick up the phone once as he was saying "I love you" to another girl. After that I went through his personal bag and found a collection of porno tapes and girls phone numbers. Imagine how much pain I could have prevented if I had just opened the bag a year earlier.