• Feb
  • 03

Seeing Guy for 3 Months Hes Had Troubled Relationships B4, Now Says We Can Only Be Friends, is It Possible?

Another relationships question has come in this week. Let’s tackle it straight away:

Question: I think a lot of him, but he says he will only have feelings for me a friend, but he still wants to take me out to cinema, dinner etc, but only as a friend, when we have been partners for the last 3 months. Hes had problem relationships before but although I try to convince him im not the same he says he knows that, and that he thought he was ready but hes not. Im heartbroken and dont know if I can cope only seeing him as a friend. Do I hang around and hope he changes his mind or do I accept that hes only ever gonna be my friend because at the moment the hurt is too much and its affecting my everyday life.
Answer: The feelings have to be mutual or else you are a sucker.

Obviously you are more in love with him than he is of you.

In the early parts of relationship, which you are in, the most important thing to keep the relationship going is that you put yourself first. It sounds sort of counter-productive, but you can't jump into a relationship with two feet putting the rest of your life on hold. You have to know who you are and be confident of yourself.

Confidence about yourself and your life is the key to life and also the key to having many people like you and want to be with you.

All guys and girls are attracted to people with confidence about themselves. There was something that attracted him to you in the very beginning and as Yourself gets lost and replaced by him, he is seeing less and less of the You that he was initially attracted to.

This is also why he said he wants to be friends, and do the things you did in the beginning of your relationship. He really liked you when you weren't so hung up on him. Keep Yourself in focus, then when he sees how stable and confident You are with Yourself and Your life, then he'll really see what he was missing.

So, what were you doing before/when you met him? (No, seeing someone else doesn't count.) Do those things. You remember, before you were dating him, you used to like to _______. Do that, and he'll want to be with that person again.


trackback

  • Feb
  • 3
randomboi_83
randomboi_83

no!! it wont help hanging around him. make it easy on yourself and get rid of him. U will get over him alot easier if he isnt in your life as much!!

  • Feb
  • 3
xillix_cheeky_xillix
xillix_cheeky_xillix

stick around as a friend, show him you'd rather have him as a friend then nothing at all.. he's not ready yet and if you push him then that means the relationship between u 2 wont be stable, yeh itl hurt at first but just take fings 1 step at a time. goodluck

  • Feb
  • 3
smilinjack12003
smilinjack12003

For now just accept him as a friend and try to move on with your life, sounds like he just wants the goodies and no strings.Maybe he will realize soon that he made a mistake.

  • Feb
  • 3
thymeandspice
thymeandspice

If you hang around him the best you'll probably be is a booty call for him. If he isn't intersested then stop trying to fix him and move on. He doesn't sound like he has himself together enough to be in a real relationship.

  • Feb
  • 4
Jay
Jay

How do you know he is not using you only as a status symbol? Hence, caution is the watch word…

Yahoo! Personals
Explore