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Found out Hubby Has a Dating Profile Online?

July 10, 2010

I just love answering these dating questions. Here’s another:

Question: Was cleaning out internet history when I found it. Total shock to me. Only plentyoffish saying he was looking for sex, specifically, that he wants "some fun and love from you." (You meaning the internet users). Has posted 2 pictures that I took of him myself and says he lives with someone. So I printed out and showed him. He said it was a joke but admitted to having it for two years, that he never met anyone offline. I said well then wh y do you have it if it’s a joke (he was sending messages that same day to people…happy faces, little things like that..and he says he knows it’s stupid of him to have but that I should believe him. He did show me where he’d messaged some women and one even wrote that he’s very hot-looking. He deleted the profile.
He is constantly accusing me of flirting or eluding that I’m cheating on him which is b.s. so that’s why this is so alarming to me…when he’s the one with a profile. if I even speak to a male waiter when we’re out, he gives me dagger eyes.
WTF?!?

Answer: Cut the shit and just ask him point blank, What is so lacking in our marriage that you decided to look elsewhere?

(It is going to be the low-quality sex-life.)

Then tell him, ‘If you lie to me, if I do not believe your answer, then I am going to leave you and I know the answer is not 0 to my next question - How many times have you kissed, or done more, with other women since we have been married?"

No wiggle room. Keep nailing it down until you have the answers you need to decide what to do next.

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Why Do Girls Not Like Dating Friends?

July 9, 2010

This week’s question is as follows:

Question: I really don’t get it to be honest.
What is wrong with a girl dating a guy who they are good friends with?

Like in my mind that’s perfect isn’t it? You become good friends with someone because you trust them, are always there for them, care for them and are nice to them. etc.
Aren’t they the main key points to a good relationship?

It just confuses me, because if an excuse for a relationship is they only see you as a friend, that means that their ex’s and future boyfriends can’t hold any of the traits of a friend, else they would just be a friend. See what I’m getting at? Then they couldn’t go with that guy because they are "just friends".

Why can’t girls see that their best friends (male) hold the traits that they always seem to moan no guys have.

Just seems to me that they use it as a kind of gentle way of saying "f**k off".
P.S.
I’m really sorry if I offended anyone with this, re-reading, it does seem a little harsh.

Answer: Many women don’t want to date their friends as they don’t want to break that friendship. If the relationship worked out, then that would be great. But if it didn’t, then that friendship plus relationship would be broken and awkward for the rest of their lives. Women don’t want to take that risk of losing a great friend.
They may also not want to date their friends because their friends know too much about them or vice versa.

I am of the opinion that becoming friends first and THEN dating is a good idea as well, but in this day in time people like to date people they’ve only just met.

Hope I helped, and best of luck!

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Poll: Would You Date Someone Who Had Been …. ?

July 8, 2010

What’s this week’s question? Let’s dive straight in…

Question: Would you date someone if they had been in prison, obviously not for things like rape and murder and things like that, but more for crimes such as theft or drugs, if this person had changed totally from the person they used to be ??

PS - Do you think people can really change, in regards to things like that ??

Answer: I would be, but only if they change, and yes people can change. They may still have some habits from previous times, but if they continue to try then you know that they will eventually become a great person. Just don’t move to fast with them, you don’t want to get hooked to someone who can go back to their old selves just like that. Watch them, and you just might learn something valuable.

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Why Do Some Parents Only Allow Their Child to Start Dating at 16?

July 7, 2010

What’s this week’s dating question? Let’s dive straight in…

Question: Like I mean to be honest, I’m 20 now, but I can easily remember 10 or so years ago when I was hitting the top of the Junior school. (which is the 2nd stage of schools in the UK for those in America). And by then I was easily ready to start dating, and many around me did. I don’t see what the big deal is.

Certainly only being able to start dating at 16 seems ridiculous, do you not agree? It’s part of growing up, what’s wrong with a bit of fun whilst you’re a child - or is that not allowed these days?

Answer: Parents are just being very overprotetive nowadays. I mean you hear plenty of stories of young mums living in council flats with a broken family, and their "boyfriends" doing a runner, etc, because they weren’t mature enough to handle that he had a kid.
I don’t know. I personally think if the child wants to try dating a bit, then he/she should be allowed, as long as they weren’t doing anything too stupid.
I had my first boyfriend at 14/15 and although that only lasted a month or so, I got a lot out of that experience to make my future relationships better… Depends on the individual really.
Wishing you all the best.

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Underage Sex - Would You Have a First Date Being Filmed by a Whole Camera Crew?

July 6, 2010

What a great dating question:

Question: no wonder it didn’t go further than a first date, that would be so awkward.. or do you think it was just a set up for the show?
doc lmao, i really hope you’re joking

Answer: Lmao. The thing i found weired was the girl who didnt tell her mum she was having sex had a camera crew in the home filming about that very subject… Surely she would of had an idea??

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I Might As Well Stop Dating Men out of My Skin Shade.?

July 5, 2010

A tough dating question this week. Let’s dive straight in

Question: Because I keep getting criticized by it, people always say that it looks wrong.

I’m have previous romantic relationships with white guys and It was hard. Now I feel like I can’t even go for my personal preference.

I bet white guys don’t even like black girls..

Answer: Dating across racial lines is tough. I am sure you knew that going in so I assume that you are just a little battle weary from all the negative feedback you get.

The central point in this is how you feel. If white guys ‘rock’ what’s the harm in dating or even marrying them? Enough black men date white girls so why is it right for them but wrong for you?

Why should you surrender to the racists out there and give up?

I am the product of cross race marriage. Lord knows it was hard for my parents in the 1960’s but the world has moved on just a little since then. Where would I be if my parents (who were married until my father died) had given up because people thought it was plain wrong?

As for the last line of your question, guys who like girls are also likely to like girls who are not from their race. White can love black and Viceversa.

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Dating Someone over the Internet?

July 3, 2010

Another dating question has come in this week. Let’s tackle it straight away:

Question: Hi. I’m 15 and I have a role play twitter account. I met this guy on it and we have a lot in common. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. We always talk to each other over twitter every single day. Is this weird? I mean, I know what he looks like and everything. And I know all about internet safety, we don’t plan on meeting in person. But we really like each other a lot. I know we’re never going to see each other and person but I’m young and just having fun, you know? Do you think I should break up with him?
It’s not meaningless to me, but we both know we’re not going to meet ever. But we really love each other and have a lot in common. I’m just not thinking about marrying him or anything! Remember, I’m only 15.

Answer: If you really like each other, keep working with the relationship.
Have fun and go with the flow. See how it works out.
I’m 15 too, so I understand.
Don’t worry too much, enjoy yourself and have a great life.

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Im Planning a Picnic Date, What Sorts of Food Should I Take?

July 2, 2010

A tough dating question this week. Let’s dive straight in

Question: We havent been seeing each other very long, only a couple of weeks. We are both 17.
So far, im planning to make some form of a chicken salad, then mabye making pasty’s (however, she dosent like red meat, so im stuck for ideas here, cheese and onion mabye?) then for dessert im making choc chip cookies, bite sized brownies topped with chocolate sauce and a fresh raspberry, and mabye strawberries and cream? Im thinking the cream might go off a bit if its warm? I do have a cool bag, and lots of ice packs for it as well, not sure how long it will stay cold for though, no real experience with picnics

What do you think of this so far, and what else could I add to this?
Thanks

Answer: How romantic!

i think pastry is a good idea, how about two small wedges of salmon,mix some creme fresh with either dill or rock fort cheese warm it in a pan so as to become a sauce,wrap the uncooked salmon in puff pastry parcel with enough sauce and bake [any left over sauce if chilled over night goes hard and can be used as a soft cheese spread]
baby tomatoes.
a mixed green salad with separate dressing.
a sparkly Champagne type wine/or non alcoholic
fresh fruit,strawberries,raspberries and wedges of water melon.
maybe chocolate fudge!
enjoy yourselves!

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Does Me Having a Child Affect Potential Dates?

July 1, 2010

What’s this week’s question? Let’s dive straight in…

Question: I am a 29 year old single mum to a 2 year old boy. Split with his father over a year ago and he only sees him once a week. I would like to now move on with my life.
Is it possible to date when you are a single mum? Are most guys turned off by a child? If any man was to see having a child as ‘baggage’ then I wouldn’t be interested in them for a second! It’s just i’d like to know what I should expect on the dating scene….
Thanks guys

Answer: There is hope there sweety. I am living proof! I am 30 years old and and a single mum of a 20month year old boy. I went back in to dating just a few months ago. There are still good men out there. It makes it hard juggling your son and dating but if you feel the time is right, go a head. I would suggest dating sites. (just be careful) before you meet, really get to know them. That’s how I met my guy and I found out a lot about him before I met him. You may meet someone that has a child of their own, it’s good to keep your options open.

It’s a good time to meet someone as your son is more likely to adapt to the new man in your life. Don’t be in a rush but when you feel like the right one is there, you’ll know it. All the best

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YIKES!!! Should I Continue to Date Him or Not?

June 29, 2010

Keep the dating questions coming! I liked this one:

Question: He shouts and gets angry for the slightest thing. He is very intolerant. He wants me to send him loving messages all the time, I do but not too many as we have only been dating 6 weeks. I want to take it slowly as I have been hurt before. Sometimes he cancels dates but wants me to be available all the time when it suits him. Once did not show up at all and never called me. He went off for the weekend with his friends witout telling me and had his phone switched off. I was waiting at home for his call. He never apologised but ended up shouting at me that I worried his brother as I phoned his brother asking where he was and his brother didn’t know. Yet, he wants me to be available for him when it suits him and gets angry when I am not. He gets angry easily for little things and has a temper. So I am not really sure he is a great guy …. He has no education and works in a factory and ever second week works on the night shift. I am studying for my Masters. His last girlfriends were vulgar and uneducated, one worked as a stripper. He used to work as a stripper. He is jealous and controlling and told him that I don’t need to see my friends much any more.

The first night we slept together he took me to a hotel. I dont know why he didnt take me back to his place. Ive been there since.

I told him that I had been hurt in the past and that I wanted to take it slowly. He shouted and got angry and said "Everyone has been hurt in the past. Just get over it"

Another time he got really angry because I asked to change bars and go to the bar next door as there were no seats at the bar we were at.

Once when we slept together I went to the bathroom to get condoms. Three days later he brought it up in an angry voice that I destroyed the romantic moment by going to the bathroom to get condoms.

Another time we arranged a blind date between my friend and his best friend and he got all angry and said "why would he phone her again as she won’t sleep wth him, she is just looking for friendship" and was even shouting.

SHOULD I CONTINUE TO DATE HIM? WOULD MANY WOMEN TOLERATE THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOUR?

He also told me that I talk too much about my friends and their lives and that I should only talk about me and him and our future together.

Also, some of his friends occassionally go with prostitutes even though they are married.

His photos

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http://www.celibataire.ch/events/photos_events_afficher-1174836305.html

Answer: Dump him.

He sounds like a hillbilly redneck or trailer trash. You’re studying a Masters, and he’s a screaming, shouting and insulting ex-stripper who works in a factory? You obviously have a thing for the bad boys. If his friends are all over the prostitutes, he probably is too, so get him dumped and find a decent guy who treats you right.

The world is full of old and bitter women who hate men, and these women were usually the ones who dated the badboys and got mentally and physically scarred by their experiences, instead of finding a good man who loves them. Take the advice now before this guy ruins your future.