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YOU CAN'T FORCE HER TO LET HER GUARD DOWN. PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING AND TIME.

patience is the key… and showing (showing, not telling) her that she can trust you.

don't push the subject, be there and be supportive whenever possible, but a word of fair warning, if she does ever really need you and youdrop the ball, she'll never forgive you, no matter what she says

I have been the girl that needed to open up….First,Let her know that you care about her for more than sex. Share things with her about yourself. Do not share sex stories ever. She doesn't want to hear who else you've "opened" up too. Learn to talk to her and to listen, not just wait to speak. Become a friend a close friend that she can trust and the rest will take care of itself. Do not get angry when she doesn't want to talk. Kiss her reassure her and tell her she can talk about whatever she wants as soon as she is ready. Don't pry and ask question after question. Questions cause that uncomfortable feeling that we have all felt one time or another.

Well im going to jump out on a limb here and guess that theres a really good reason why she has gaurds up, and thats because shes been hurt before in the past, by past relationships. Eather with other guys or family memebers. I think the way your going to get threw to her is by showing her how much you care about her and that you love her. Maybe one of the best ways you can help her, is by getting her to talk about whats happened to her to make her feel as though she needs to put that gaurd up. Maybe she was beat by her father, or molested by her uncle, maybe even raped by a ex boyfriend… you never know. But people dont just put up emotional gaurds for nothing, something has to trigger it. Maybe you can get her to talk about what happened to her, never the less she would be opening up to you about something at that point. If she wont tell you what it is, maybe you can tell her that you know somethings bothering her and you just want to be that one person that she can vent to when shes having a bad day, its going to take baby steps here, and when she does tell you private things make sure no matter what you dont tell another soul, no matter what it is, even if its really bad, she would need to be the person to reveal her problems to someone else not you. To a person that has emotional gaurds up, a little bit of trust can go a looooong way, but it takes a while to just get a crumb of it. Just ask her questions about why she is the way she is, she will pick up that you care because your asking…. I hope it all works well for you and your girlfriend *HUGS*