Another internet dating question has come in this week. Let’s tackle it straight away:
A lot of online dating services are little more than "meat markets". As a female, you can expect a lot useless attention. But if you can get past that, and keep your head straight, I think it is a useful way to cast your net a lot further; don't get too carried away, though - finding a guy (or girl) in a distant place can be its own can of worms.
I met my girlfriend through an online service. We are both middle-aged, intelligent people. She had been on the site for a long time, and had been patiently reading all the mail she received (and answering only polite ones). Then one day she and I connected. We are very close to perfect for each other, and have a wonderful, rewarding relationship (1 1/2 years so far).
The thing is, online dating has the potential to help you get around all the clumsy, awkward stuff of getting to know someone in person, physical presence I mean. You can tell a lot about someone by what they say, and how they say it.
At the time I joined this service, I didn't have much time for dating. Maybe I'm a little different, but I did not write to every pretty face I saw. Actually, I only wrote to maybe 5 women in the two months I used the service. I'd read their profiles, of course, but not take everything they said at face value. I was more interested in how they said it; that told me a lot about them.
I was incredibly lucky to find a fantastic woman so quickly, who soon felt the same way about me. It won't always work, that is for sure.
But it can!
simply…yes.
Very SAD
No, It's a way to connect to people you might never have known existed.
Pretty much
No, its easy.
Absolutely not. It's a personal preference and sometimes it works.
only if you don't get a date!
yup
Yes and desperate.
not at all! u must do everything u can to find the one for u….its just a way of trying a lil harder.
how can you date over the internet?
this is very sad indeed
It CAN be for some ppl.
I used to think so! i suppose wherever u can find love go for it.
Have you tried it? You can't say you like something if you haven't tried it, right?!
It can be. Depends what your after. Chat, laugh, fun! Then you can do all that on the net. And safe. If your ever bored it can always cheer u up
its both sad n cheap
No, I do not think so. I can be fun if you find someone nice to talk with.
It depends on your attitude. I don't think it's sad. At the end of the day it's up to you what happens.
not necessarily. I met my hubby that way. I am simply not a bar chick and wanted to be sure we had common interests. I do not think the net should be someone's only source of romance that would be sad but its an option to try along with the more common routes.
I know a number of women who have gotten dates with guys on Match.com. My daughter is encouraging me to start dating again, as I have been widowed for 4 years. I have been looking at these sites and I think I agree with you that the whole concept is quite depressing.
No.I think its exciting.I have found a few dates for my Mom that she never would have had since she doesnt get many chances to meet single men.And she is in her late 60's!
Yeah my online man left me for a skinny white chick.
No, I met my wife on Craigslist. We have been very happy for 2 years now.
Depends how u go about it. If you rely on 'finding ur man' on the net and spend 24/7 searching then yeah! But if u just 'get chatting' to someone then na…. its a way of meeting people you would have otherwise never met!
Ive never done it and have no need to but I dont think its sad.
try it if your thinking about it.
I don't know if it is sad but it can be very dangerous. Be safe
not really, its just away of hiding ur true identity
No. It has less risks and you can have cam sex which is absolute "Safe Sex". If you get tired of the person, just remove him/her from your list. It is as easy as that. There are no commitments. Join us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Internet daters.
yes, in a way it is. I understand the process, and how it can be a way to get right to the point by conversing in your own home. But i think it takes the fun out of 'dating'.
Whatever floats your boat is what I say!
Bo Who Who … Yes ..
Internet dating allows you to know whether or not a person is single, what they like, what they are looking for, if they smoke, if they want children or not and lots of other things by taking two minutes to look at their profile. If you could tell all these things about someone you thought was attractive,just by looking at them, wouldn't you want to? It's no different. I think looking for romance in a bar is sad.
I'm lucky to have a cracking bird, but if your shy or have underlying factors, then sure! why not! Cant do any harm surely.
The guys on there are, most of them lie, cheat and are a waste of time, and they are only on there for one thing!!
I dont think so. It is the same as if you were to meet somebody in a bar really, except for the fact you are not face to face. When you meet somebody in person, you dont know them from a hole in the wall and they can tell you anything you want to hear, just like if you were talking online to somebody.
If somebody is going to bull shi* u, they will do it whether they are face to face with you, or on line.
They are nice people are real people out there. Your online right? Are you crazy?
USUALLY I WOULD SAY YES,BUT IM HEARING OF MORE AND MORE PEOPLE WHO HAVE MET THE LOVE OF THEIR LIVES THROUGH THE INTERNET AND SOME ARE MARRIED NOW OR HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR A LONG TIME!
iF YOU ARE JUST SIMPLY DATING SOMEONE ON THE INTERNET WHO YOU NEVER ACTUALLY MEET THEN YES THAT IS A BIT SAD!! X
I think it is a way to get to know someone before the conflicts of sex and craziness come in to play of the relationship it gives you time to filter out how this person is and if you would want to spend time with them or not i say it beats getting drunk finding some stranger to take home and waking up going oh god what have i done
well some my say yes to that in till they meet that person they have spooken so much but me i would love to go back to the face to face thing get rid of theis metal box
id say yes..im afraid because if you wnt a relationship wiv someone…you need to be real with it..if u get me …howver its not peoples fault they cant find someone in reality…but yeh dnt try it unless ur desperate..its waste of time
Well I met my fiance 3 years ago online. I don't get why it's considered sad when you compare it to going to hang around bars where you'd meet someone who's drunk, and the day after ou don't really know them and you don't even remember if you liked them that much or they were that great in the first place! Surely it's better to get to know someone properly?
not necessarily…but it's not right either.people should get out more, and talk to people face to face.many men and women have low self-esteem and therefore are too shy to step up and say what they feel.these people should accept themselves as they are, for who they are.if someone does not like you as you are, then that someone does not deserve you.one must always remember that there is always and i mean always someone out there who will be attracted to him/her.people should have a correct image of themselves and date people that fit them ,without making compromises such as, wow, he's so pretty, well, he kinda drinks a lot, but he likes me…this is wrong.no compromise.self-confidence.trust in yourself.
Yes if you are just wasting someone's time by not being genuine. No if you are desperate like me!
No, not at all…I met someone through a dating site and we`ve been together for 2 years now
No. I met my boyfriend this way and we've been together a year. My friends didn't know any single guys and I'm not into hanging out in bars. Where else do you meet single people who are looking for a relationship?!
no whatever turns u on and helps
yeah, very sad.
From what I've read It does not sound safe but i guess like all dating columns proceed with care & don't be giviing to much personal detail accross.