This week’s question is as follows:
What is wrong with a girl dating a guy who they are good friends with?
Like in my mind that’s perfect isn’t it? You become good friends with someone because you trust them, are always there for them, care for them and are nice to them. etc.
Aren’t they the main key points to a good relationship?
It just confuses me, because if an excuse for a relationship is they only see you as a friend, that means that their ex’s and future boyfriends can’t hold any of the traits of a friend, else they would just be a friend. See what I’m getting at? Then they couldn’t go with that guy because they are "just friends".
Why can’t girls see that their best friends (male) hold the traits that they always seem to moan no guys have.
Just seems to me that they use it as a kind of gentle way of saying "f**k off".
P.S.
I’m really sorry if I offended anyone with this, re-reading, it does seem a little harsh.
They may also not want to date their friends because their friends know too much about them or vice versa.
I am of the opinion that becoming friends first and THEN dating is a good idea as well, but in this day in time people like to date people they’ve only just met.
Hope I helped, and best of luck!
Means that she well…… Does not want to break your friendship
the girl that you’re talking about probably did use it as a nice way to turn you down. i would actually prefer to date a good friend than a guy that i just met. it always works better that way.
because everyone wants something they can’t have. If u dump her then she will remember u for some time, but if u r always nice - then u’ll be used as a friend only
Because, I had a male friend, he was one of my best friends, I dated him, and now we hate each other. We girls don’t want to date our best guy friends because we’re afraid it will ruin a great friendship and we don’t want to take the chance.
well, since a lot of relationships may not end well, she is just concerned that it will ruin your friendship, she just doesn’t want to lose you from her life.
For me, I think all "good" or "best" friends that are guy’s and girl’s somewhat develop feelings along the way. But guys think of it differently as to girls. Yes, she might have feelings. But it’s better to save the friendship and just have feelings, rather then to date and ruin the relationship you’ve had prior to it. I’ve been in so man situations where I’ve dating a really close and good guy friend, and after dating everything get’s ruined. Because someone always winds up hurt, and you just aren’t friends afterwards, so everything was ruined, and you wind up missing your best friend. But I do agree, that they could always make the best boyfriends/girlfriends. You just have to look at the outcome on the other end. You have to ask yourself, what happens after we break up? You’ll think to yourself, and always say that nothings going to change and it will be normal, and you both will promise each other that. But it never happens that way. Trust me. I’ve been through it three times, with three different guys..
Either
She is nervous about ruining you friendship, which if that is the case you have to convince her that no matter what happens you will still be friends. And trust me its best to be friends even after a relationship because your relationship has to do if you are attracted to each other and want to be together possibly for ever, or just to have fun, while a friendship is about two people who enjoy each other presence and are there for each other but aren’t necessarily attracted to each other.
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She doesn’t like you. Plain and simple.
and don’t listen to people saying it can’t work out if you break up. It is true that it is hard, but you will have to take the initiative to make it work because in many cases she won’t. If you don’t think you will be able to handle that (and its hard for a few weeks) then don’t risk your friendship, if you can however, there is not a risk involved unless your a dirty cheater. lol.
we dont like dating our friends cause if we break up with them then it would ruin our friendship. tip if your in college or older then go for it cause it’ll last longer but if ur still in high school or even middle school then DONT try anything itll only last a while
It’s not that they don’t want to date friends, it’s that they don’t want to date that individual AT ALL.
If they wanted to date a friend they would, they just use the ‘we’re friends’ thing as an excuse and it’s a pretty good one because it can make them appear innocent, when actually they just don’t like you in that way.
Yes i am a girl and i totally agree with you. Its mostly because their friendship means everything to them and if they get in a relationship and breakup their friendship might get ruined..
hahah.. im one of those girls who asked the guy out.. and guess what? HE said no. so there is some of us on the other side of this argument
I like dating friends. I can hang alone with them, and trust them, and just be chill. Some girls don’t like it because they sometimes feel like they don’t know what the guy wants; a friendship or relationship. and other girls think they want to have a relationship, when they don’t like them or just want to be friends and don’t get the guy just wants a "dating friend"
If I understand you question correctly (which i’m not sure I do..) you’re saying you don’t get why girls wont date people who have been their friends. Well, maybe we’re worried that if something happens to the relationship, that the two of them will never be friends again. Its hard to make a commitment like that, mostly because most guys are inconsistent bozos who can’t keep a relationship together until they are like 80..
So if a girl is friends with a guy, she probably won’t date him because she is afraid that if they break up as boyfriend and girlfriend that they won’t be friends any more.
I had a bestfriend and we tried dating and we lasted like 2 months. i broke up w/ him cause he was TOO sweet. yes, too sweet. haha. he was too much of my best friend. he is more of my brother than a boyfriend. i think that girls dont like to date really good guy friends because they have too much in the past, and when it dont work out, it may ruin the friendship. and when your in the relationship, nothing changes.
Dating friends has always and will always be a bad idea. Yes I suppose it does work once in a blue moon but most of the time it just ends in disaster. Once you break up and chances are that you will there is no friendship, its over. Besides there needs to be attraction and that isn’t there with some friends. And no, if she really is your friend she doesn’t mean a polite f*** off but rather she just wants to be friends with you. If you aren’t really fiends then yes she is just being polite..
My friend, girls are stupid. And when I say stupid, I mean STUPID. They go for the hot guy, the assholes, the cocky guys, and the players. They say guys are shallow, while they are doing even worse than they are. Girls at your age think they’re grown up now, and they think they know everything, and exactly what they want. I’m going to get countless numbers of thumbs down, because Girls Don’t Know Shlt. Girls cannot see who is right in front of them, who has always been there, and who will always be there. They make stupid decisions, get hurt, and then come cry on your shoulder. Why? Because there’s nothing else to it, girls are idiots. I would kill to make one of my friendboys my boyfriend. I can get frustrated all I want to about how girls are all the same, but oh well. More boys like you for me. Ha!
Because they don’t like them! That’s why they get put in the friend-zone to begin with.
i personally dont mind, but i think it’s because they’re scared of losing the friendship. if you two breakup then she wouldnt be able to handle losing you, if you’re close.
for me though, i prefer my boyfriend to first have been close friends with me, because we know eachother well, and nothings ever awkward.
Okay, here’s the difference. You date somebody, and then build a friendship. Dating a friend doesn’t leave any time to build up anything, and any attraction is likely to be minimzed because they’ve seen you so much. The person they just started dating is a mystery to be solved, something that humans as a whole seem to love.