I just love answering these dating questions. Here’s another:
Question: Was cleaning out internet history when I found it. Total shock to me. Only plentyoffish saying he was looking for sex, specifically, that he wants "some fun and love from you." (You meaning the internet users). Has posted 2 pictures that I took of him myself and says he lives with someone. So I printed out and showed him. He said it was a joke but admitted to having it for two years, that he never met anyone offline. I said well then wh y do you have it if it’s a joke (he was sending messages that same day to people…happy faces, little things like that..and he says he knows it’s stupid of him to have but that I should believe him. He did show me where he’d messaged some women and one even wrote that he’s very hot-looking. He deleted the profile.
He is constantly accusing me of flirting or eluding that I’m cheating on him which is b.s. so that’s why this is so alarming to me…when he’s the one with a profile. if I even speak to a male waiter when we’re out, he gives me dagger eyes.
WTF?!?
He is constantly accusing me of flirting or eluding that I’m cheating on him which is b.s. so that’s why this is so alarming to me…when he’s the one with a profile. if I even speak to a male waiter when we’re out, he gives me dagger eyes.
WTF?!?
Answer: Cut the shit and just ask him point blank, What is so lacking in our marriage that you decided to look elsewhere?
(It is going to be the low-quality sex-life.)
Then tell him, ‘If you lie to me, if I do not believe your answer, then I am going to leave you and I know the answer is not 0 to my next question - How many times have you kissed, or done more, with other women since we have been married?"
No wiggle room. Keep nailing it down until you have the answers you need to decide what to do next.
My (admittedly a bunny boiler - very strange woman) neighbour is on there - from what she tells me, its purely a site for sex, forget any aspect of dating. Mind you, as I say she’s weird - so I don’t really know how much truth there is in that.
What’’s going on is that your husband is very devious, he accuses you of cheating when he is and he gives you the most ridiculous bullshit excuses. Don’t give him dagger eyes about this. Poke his goddamn eyes out.
A colleague of mine is very into that site - I’m afraid it is well known for providing a steady stream of one-night fun.
I think you and your husband have some very, very serious trust issues to work out. Impossible to say where they have stemmed from without spending hours going through your personal history!
You both need to sit down and talk very openly about what you feel. Nothing held back. If it leads to you two drifting apart, then that has to be the case - you won’t last by hiding things like this.
thats sucks..my nephew does the same thing to his wife…
Good luck
Don’t mention again. Check money, savings, phone bills, credit card debt, be alert about hidden stashes of cash. Bad family experience is my teacher here. You know it was a joke is the same as I am a lying snake. Careful, you might need cash. Don’t you leave the domicile. Make sure there was no second mortgage taken out on the house.
he’s accusing you of what HE’s been doing. oldest trick in the book. if you’re going to tolerate this and him…if i were you i’d evaluate the meanings of his excuses. in my opinion, flat out, your husband isn’t getting the type/kind/amount of sex he wants. i’d look into being a bigger freak for my husband in effort to keep him from searching…*which is way different from "looking" try not to get it confused*
He is living in denial..
Hun it’s time to call it a day…any man who can disrespect their wife like that, doesn’t deserve to have one.
And why does he accuse you of flirting, etc because he is screwing someone behind your back.
I have been the other woman…never knew till it was too late, and felt so guilty that his poor wife knew nothing about it. And to make it worse, I wasn’t the first or the last.
Thankfully she found out about the ‘new’ woman, and left him…he is now struggling to keep his house, see his kids and stay happy with the latest bird. His life is in ruins, and at the end of the day he has no one to blame but himself
Been here dealt with this bullsh-t myself, I caught mine about a month after he posted a profile on a married but looking website. The fact that he (ur hubby) had this profile for over a 2 years is not a good sign. He has met with women don’t believe the lie, why else would he be on the site? He accuses you because he knows what he has been doing. Unfortunately we live in a society now with the computer age and there are so many of these sites and so many ways to get away with cheating and lying. I personally went ballistic on my hubby to the point that he was kind of afraid to sleep not knowing what I would do to him. I told him if that was what he wanted he needed to get the HELL away from me. In OTHER WORDS GET YOUR SH-T AND GET OUT!!!
I am sorry this happened. I bet you feel sick over it. I was dating someone two years and found out they had a profile up (I also met him on line). These men think it’s OK.
I found out a lot of the men who contacted me were married and wanted phone sex. I wouldn’t trust your husband as far as I could throw him in this, my dear. You fish around enough you will catch something. I don’t care what the excuse is he is giving. He is doing what he doesn’t want or thinks you are doing. My ex told me he liked going on sites to look at women. I gave him two months to get off them. I brought it up a couple of times and he just ignored my snide comments. When he wouldn’t take down the profiles I said good bye. At least his didn’t say he wanted "some fun and love."
Married men and men in serious relationships don’t need to be doing this. It’s not a joke. It hurt you. It’s not funny and he is lying. Since he deleted the profile, and if you want to make it work, get some counseling.