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Question: I am a 29 year old single mum to a 2 year old boy. Split with his father over a year ago and he only sees him once a week. I would like to now move on with my life.
Is it possible to date when you are a single mum? Are most guys turned off by a child? If any man was to see having a child as ‘baggage’ then I wouldn’t be interested in them for a second! It’s just i’d like to know what I should expect on the dating scene….
Thanks guys
Is it possible to date when you are a single mum? Are most guys turned off by a child? If any man was to see having a child as ‘baggage’ then I wouldn’t be interested in them for a second! It’s just i’d like to know what I should expect on the dating scene….
Thanks guys
Answer: There is hope there sweety. I am living proof! I am 30 years old and and a single mum of a 20month year old boy. I went back in to dating just a few months ago. There are still good men out there. It makes it hard juggling your son and dating but if you feel the time is right, go a head. I would suggest dating sites. (just be careful) before you meet, really get to know them. That’s how I met my guy and I found out a lot about him before I met him. You may meet someone that has a child of their own, it’s good to keep your options open.
It’s a good time to meet someone as your son is more likely to adapt to the new man in your life. Don’t be in a rush but when you feel like the right one is there, you’ll know it. All the best
I dont have kids, but there will be some guys that view your son as "baggage" but there are also those whom wont mind in the slightest!
Its just a case of weeding out the good from the bad for your situation.
xx
It’s a filter. Some guys will see it as "baggage" … sometimes even they have kids themselves! I think its a good way to see someone’s tolerance for responsibility, though. I’d say many, if not the majority of people near 30 have kids already, so you should find lots of guys looking for someone to connect with.
Honestly yes, it does narrow the selection down and make it harder but if those guys are willing to miss out on an amazing woman because she has a child.. do you really want that kind of guy in your life?
I can only speak for myself, but if I met someone who was amazing the fact that they had a child would not stop me from seeing them.
In all honesty, yes, many men will see your child as "baggage." Your hunt for a lover will be more difficult most likely because of this but you should not let that discourage you from trying.
You are single and allowed to just as happy as the next person. You just need to make it very clear at the start of getting to know someone that you have a child. Do not hide this from possible interested men or they will most likely leave once they find out.
It will be more difficult but if you ask me, you are looking for a different kind of man. Try maybe looking for one who is also in the same situation; single, with a kid, looking to start dating again.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
Easy. Find a man who loves kids
then there’s be no problem at all.
yes it does. sad, but true. try to find a dude with a child as well. that helps. im not turned off by a child — i do know that it’ll be a scheduling thing, and the guy has to like the child.
i think you can find a guy that doesn’t mind you having a kiddo
yes but as men age they will settle with it because by that time most women & men have children from previous relationships.
Some guys wouldn’t perfer to date a women if she already has kids, but then there’s some out there who thinks it’s not an issue.
Dating shmating. It ain’t gonna happen. That ship has sailed.
If you have the kid in bed asleep before the guy shows up for a booty call to you, you are good to go.
Some guys will be turned off by the fact that you have a child but that’s good for you because you don’t want to start a relationship with a man who is not interested in being a part of your child’s life as well. The guys who are turned off by it are none of your concern. The important thing to ensure is that you don’t bring a new man into your child’s life before you have had enough time to establish a good enough understanding to be comfortable with it. The worst thing you could do is keep bringing men home who eventually disappear or don’t come back. If you find someone and have a good relationship that seems likely to last, give it a couple months and see how it goes.
As most people have said - to some it will be a barrier.
Other will not mind.
The main thing is that your child and the possible date should ‘click’.
If the child starts screaming everytime your date visits - that`s not a good sign.
wish i could answer this but i aint a guy!
When people date they date and date and date until they find someone who fits them and accepts them for them for u it’s the same thing u gotta date until u meet someone who fits u and accepts u and ur son it might b a lil more difficult becuz alot of guys look at single moms as "easy" so nvr jump into anything and don’t bring anyone around ur son till u know it’s foreal becuz if ur heart breaks and ur son sees it his heart will break and u don’t want that so b careful and take ur time there are guys who will date a single mom