A dating question that should definitely interest you all this week
Question: I just had a response from online dating… 39yr old divorcee, spoke on msn for about 20 mins..next day I text him ( he didnt hav my number ) he didnt rply back untill early afternoon next day,,,his excuse was " sorry for late reply but my battery was dead and I left my charger in my other car " … do i giv him benefit of doubt or end it now?
Answer: Give him the benefit of the doubt right now. That sounds like a pretty plausible explanation, but if he keeps it up, you can drop him. I met this guy on 6rounds.com once and he was flaky in the beginning and I felt unsure about him, but then it turned out he’d just had this major personal crisis happening that weekend. After that he was normal, so I’m glad I held out a little bit.
very early in start up to say, do what you think you should do, always..
Give him the benefit of the doubt this time. And if he keeps f=doing it then leave it or ask him for his delay etc.
If this guy diddnt want to text you back, then he wouldnt of sent you a text, incluidng an apology and reasonable excuse for not texting back. It may have been delayed, but he still replied :).
The seems like a legit excuse. He’s 39, he should be old enough to not be playing games. Give him a chance.
Blimey if you are already not believing him about his reason for not texting back straight away then this ‘relationship’ is not going to go anywhere good is it.
Why the hurry on his responds? You only talked to him for 20 minutes. Give him the benefit of the doubt and see where it goes. Slow down or you will scare him away.
From how you speak, its as if you guys just met, only talked for 20 mins, and then the next day he didn’t reply to your texts and now you are angry. Why would you want to end the realationship because of something stupid like a late reply? At least he replied at all. If you are really in a realationship that matters to you, then you should know that if you guys are only dating online, and are in a long distance realationship, that he has a life beyond the computer. That is a good excuse, I do that all of the time, and so does everyone else I know. He’s only human after all, whats the harm of replying late? For all you know he could be batman, and he was off resucing orphans from a burning bus! Why judge like that and jump to conclusions. It really sounds like you don’t want to be with him, thats why you have this ‘excuse’ to dump him.
I forget my charger all the time. But my guess would be that he was nervous probley thinking that if he txt you it would trigger the cascadeing effect of him having to actualy speak to you on the phone and he felt the need to delay it by a day and build up that confidence. Of course hes not going to tell you he was scared so he comes up with an excuse. Dont think bad of it quite yet. If its constant maybe hes really not divorced and can only txt/speak certian times of the day.
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